Hate Over Hurt

i have a hard time being okay with someone who hurt me..i mean that in the sense that i will learn to hate someone because its easier than the hurt of losing them or the idea of really loving someone. There are too many times where i have to stop think, is this person really worth all the effort of hating at all?

i need to refocus that energy into something that makes me happy instead..like painting, my friendships, my family. Forgiveness is something i need to work on too because from what i have heard, the hate will hurt you more than them anyways.

"The opposite of love is not hate ....it is indifference.
By holding the anger you have relinquished control to the person you are angry at.
To regain control you should forgive ...yes but you should also diminish how you feel for the person
until it becomes indifference.
Before you can forgive this person you have to forgive yourself for your allowing it to happen.
You are just as responsible as this person is for the outcome and you are aware of that truth."